Hey Jen

Just want to toss in my two cents! I think we are similar in the way that we want things to go a certain way and when it doesn't turn out that way we get dissapointed and either blame ourselves or blame our spouse. I could be off but it kinda seems like it. Anyways for me those desires can turn into expectations. For example I think "wouldn't it be nice if hubby offered to take me out unexpectedly this week" and then I start thinking about how much I want it and it suddenly turns into an expectation and then when hubby does not offer to take me out then I get mad because it did not happen. The poor sap is wondering why I am so pissy while I am thinking "how could he not know what I wanted!"

It all kind of ties into what was being talked about on your last thread. . .before things went south ;\) about you thinking you had slid back to stage one when in reality you were just bummed that you had not reached stage 3 yet. Totally understandable and I think I do the same thing. Things are going really well and then I get mad and don't know why until I step back and realize that I am just being impatient and that even though I am in a good place I know there is a better place and I just want it to happen NOW! Lol.

So as hard as it is you just have to go day by day and work each day at letting it go little by little. I myself am a Christian woman and have been doing a lot of praying and I would recommend it to you for sure. Read the Bible and pray. I'm in Proverbs right now. The book of wisdom \:\)

Also. . .when are you starting your DB coaching? I saw that you have purchased a 3 session package. Do you have a start date yet?

Best of luck my dear!

~Daisy