welp W stopped by and I asked how work was, kissed S goodnight and gave my wife a hug (pulled away first), said god be with you both and have a good night. One of our more pleasant meetings
M 31 W 26 M 6 S 6 S 3 Separated 6/2008 Back together 10/2008 All you need is love
therefore I must carry on with my individual life as well as my son's, hope for the best, assume the worst. actually the worst part is over (she left me)
at any rate, thank you for stopping by and sharing in my journey of sorts. I know when OM/OW splits the spouse comes running back SOMETIMES. my wife has way too much pride to come back now or even admit to what happened. I don't mind playing dumb though. Even though she hurt me I forgive her and I hurt for her. our mutual friend still tells me there's a good chance she'll break my heart and I should move on. But there's people like that placed strategically around us in life eh?
M 31 W 26 M 6 S 6 S 3 Separated 6/2008 Back together 10/2008 All you need is love
Just talked to my wife. She knows that I know what happened with OM and she was bawling. I tried to console but it's hard over the phone. I hurt so much for her
M 31 W 26 M 6 S 6 S 3 Separated 6/2008 Back together 10/2008 All you need is love
she's been outwardly miserable for days, and I'm her husband. she is always in a good mood, so what else could be upsetting her if it wasn't me. ? that was her reasoning. anyway, i called her tonight to see how her and our son were doing and she told me she was going to spend the night at her parents because she "couldn't be alone tonight." when i asked if she was ok, she said no and started bawling, and proceeded to tell me that she knew I HAD to know. so anyways, weird thing is, I asked if she needed someone to talk to; I could come down there, and she said ok.
I went down and we sat next to each other and talked for an hour about how OM left for his ex as soon as she came back to town, and how he was a coward about the whole thing, trying to make up excuses, and how W figured he didn't even care about what he did to my W. she told me she knew how i felt, but now its fresh in her mind; feels like she got hit by a MAC truck.
M 31 W 26 M 6 S 6 S 3 Separated 6/2008 Back together 10/2008 All you need is love
so I told her I was there for her if she ever needed to talk, and she thanked me and I hugged her and said good night.
also told me "i know he'll be back, i just hope i have the strength to say no this time"
it felt liberating to be at the point in my life and my situation to be there for her objectively and to just be a listener and a shoulder for her. no talk of reconciliation, just her feelings. I told her (as you might have read in my older threads) that I left her home alone all the time to go to work 3rd shift, and I wasn't doing it anymore, and that I'm here for her.
I played the best friend tonight, I care for her.
M 31 W 26 M 6 S 6 S 3 Separated 6/2008 Back together 10/2008 All you need is love
You're a stronger man than me. W has om and i really struggle. I try to give the impression i'm not bothered but my w sees straight through me.
She asked if i could watch the kids for another two days while she goes see other man - and then says "sorry to hurt you". i would say that what you are doing is perfect. keep supporting her.
how long are you married and when was bomb dropped ?
