It happened again.....

[lost_in_space]

Sandy

I too have heard the unhappy for the last seven years stuff. For now, take it as just that - stuff.

I have been told and reminded on numerous occassions - believe none of what they say and half of what they do. ACTIONS will speak louder than words.

When I am told the 7 year thing, I have asked "and what have WE done about it". The answer was nothing, she thought she could do it all herself. . Have you been happy in the last 7 years? Sure there are rough patches, but have things really been that terrible to justify anything that has happened? No - never a justification for the OM / OW to enter the scene.

For you, know what needs work at the point when / if (hate that last part but a reality we all face) things turn around. For now, focus on you and k's. And don't give up on what YOU want in your life.

For me, unless there is abuse, splitting a family is not an option unless EVERYTHING is tried first to keep the family together. My K's are older, but they know that. They know their dad is fighting to honor a commitment to our family. And seeing their reaction provides all the incentive I need (most of the time). They only get one chance to be a K and they shouldn't have to put up with this cr@p.

Keep fighting the good fight if that is what you want to do. That is a decision only you can make.

(((Hugs))))