That is all any of us can do. Try to be strong enough to let him go his own way, if only as an act. The more you do this, the more it will become reality rather than pretend.
Some of us are stronger/more able to do this than others. Jak and I couldn't do it with contact. I still can't, even though I am largely detached, now. I know that face-to-face contact, even phone calls, pull me backwards. I need no-contact or email to keep myself healthy and moving forward. I anticipate that this won't always be the case, but it is this way for now. TIME is the only other thing that works for us all.
There are many different techniques that we all throw at this. It is good to give us focus, keep us from loosing it, make us feel life we are actually doing something. But there is simply NOTHING that you can do directly that will get inside someone else's mind. You can only control you, focus on you, improve yourself. And that is a worthy goal. No matter which way the sitch works out, you come out ahead.
