For the Guy with Kids and a WW 10

[hopeful4her]

Hey kat.

It would purely be for me. I'm sure its not a good idea. Just something I've thought about.

About one and a half years after our divorce, she contacted me. She wanted to meet up to talk. I was already remarried and GBG was about 7 months along with D11. We met and she wanted to basically have closure. She thanked me for the times we had, the house we bought together that she kept. Even for our dog that I had gotten for us. I told her that I respected her greatly, and that I don't think that I would have had the balls to do what she did. She asked if I wanted to have dinner at the place we were at, but I declined and left. AT the time, I was so sure of my decision, that I don't think that I have ever said that I was sorry.

That was the last time I have ever seen her. I'm sure things worked out way better for her and I'm sure that contacting her would be a mistake. We have both moved on. At this point, there some things just better left unsaid, I think.

Today's sermon was on "No Loss is Too Devasting" and the grieving process.

Denial
"I cant believe this is happening to me."

Anger
"Who is responsible for this happening to me?"

Bargaining
"What could I have done to prevent this?"

Depression
"I can't go on."

Acceptance
"This has happened; I must move forward."

Life is filled with losses we just cannot understand. We may lose a battle, but we don't necessarily have to lose the war. The 3 promises from God when we deal with a loss.

The Lord can HEAR you.
The Lord can HELP you.
The Lord can HEAL you.

Nothings too hard for God.

Also Job. "The Lord giveth, and the Lord taketh away."

Fitting? Oh yeah.