I completly agree with everything you said. I know that I am still in pain and unsure but for right now I am going to bury that a litte bit and really take the day to listen to my husband and try to understand where he is coming from. I have realized that in the past I never really listened to him. Like when we still lived together and he would be (in his own weird seeming way) trying to reach out to me and express himself I would only hear the parts I wanted to hear or I would hear negative things and while he was still speaking I would be busy planning ways or arguments to get him to change. I never let him be who he is and now is my chance to really embrace him as a person and let him who he is. So tomorrow I am going to try my hardest to let him talk. I can always get individual sessions to talk about my issues which might be a good idea for me. And possibly him too in the future.
