Thanks snodderly youre better than all the counsellors Ive seen who,in the main,say things like" This man isnt worth it just divorce him...Why hold on" etc)I am amazed how slow the detachment and healing is. I now have a dull ache inside all the time instead of the awful stomach punches I got at the beginning so I am making some progress.How much better I feel is definitely related to how busy I am. When I was teaching full time earlier this year I felt much better. Im going to do 2 days a week now but have arranged some classes for my days off and will get into a routine. Furnishing my new rented house will be fun too.I dont think I will ever stop loving him though...He isnt a bad person just so weak and confused.