One Last Pull for this Knot to Break

[sleeper]

X brought the kids by last night. We're having issues with our son not following directions. Seems as though he didn't follow her or OM's instructions to not do something. OM told him what priviledge he has now lost. It bugs me when he disciplines our children but I have bit my tounge so far as it has been rare and mild. He has no children of his own and therefore lacks not only the right to do so (IMHO), but any practical experience in the matter.

As I walked X to the car I broached the subject of disciplining our kids in light of our D and "other people". I told her in our son's eyes OM is in a gray area, not his parent. I added if either of us remarries it would be different, of course, without going into any detail. Much to my surprise she took this very well. I expected her to become defensive of OM as she has in the past on other topics but she didn't. Her only refuting response was that our children should respect and follow the instructions of adults.

The expression on her face when I mentioned the posibility of either of us remarrying was surprising and interesting. She looked a little surprised and as if "that's not going to happen" and "I hope that never happens" at the same time. I stated this very matter of factly and as if it makes no difference to me if she remarries.

While she was in my apt she commented, "We need to get you some shelves." It's difficult moving from a 2,500 sq ft home to a 900 sq ft apt without an attic or storage building. Gradually my apt has become more and more cluttered as I have moved my belongings into it. I've got lots more to move.

This shocked me and struck me as funny at the same time. When she kicked me out (my counselor advise me to go and not fight her) she didn't care if I had a bed to sleep on and vehemently forbade me from taking "anything" (furniture) from the house.