A, You'll slowly get to the other side of life, whereby you won't have and/or feel the "need" to contact your h. When separating the assets/financial items, it takes time and if your h isn't willing to meet w/you, you just might have to take care of them yourself. It sounds like he really doesn't want anything legalized in the way of splitting up things.
I'm not surprised at all to read that he's not called you up. They say things and yet don't follow through in many instances. This is where you need to keep your expectations at zero at all times. The person you were familiar w/and knew very well, is not longer that person. If he's depressed, he's going to be forgetful or because he doesn't want this conversation, will conveniently forget about calling you. What do you do? Go on w/your life and take care of the business that affects you.
Until you are fully detached and able to stop focusing on him the way you are, you will not be able to move on as easily as you think. Detaching is not easy to do and the more you focus on him, the harder it is. That's why it's very important to find other things to do to take your mind off of him, what he's doing, etc. You'll get there in time....
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
