Ironically, during our practice session last night with the homework from counseling, he said and I quote "I was raised by people who think working this hard, this long is normal, there is nothing wrong with it."
And the retort that sprang into my head (that I did not vocalize) was "I bet that is what the alcoholic child of an alcoholic says too."
I think that's being unfair. America has long had a culture that places value on work over everything else. I'd go so far as to guess that you fall into that yourself. You shouldn't equate that in your H with alcoholism unless you're ready to shine that critical light on friends, family, and self as well. IMO. Criticism is easy, forgiveness and acceptance is hard, but they're required. Think of it in the context of teaching. Do you criticize your students for their backgrounds and varied learning approaches/abilities? At what point do you accept?
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There is a fine line between criticizing someone for working so many hours and trying to get through to them that it is killing your R. I understand working long hours. It is required when starting and owning your own business but I also realize that I must take time out for myself and my family.
I think what Bridge is trying to tell her H is just because your parents were workaholics does not mean you have to be one. Yes put in the hours when it is required but please take time out for us and yourself. I don't think it was criticizm just a request to be put first sometimes.
We all need to feel like we are the most important person in someones lives, not all the time but some of the time. I think this is what Bridge is saying, I need to know that I am more important than work thats all. I related it to alcoholism because neither one acknowledges they have a problem even when they are told over and over again.
