"Today, I finished reading Ed Wheat's book "How to Save Your Marriage Alone". It talks about women should respond with unconditional love to their WAH, while a man should love and pursue the WAW. The part for the man ssems to contradict Jim Conway's advice for MLC and Michele's advice for WAW."
My reason is that I have done so much reading since my W and I have been apart that I have seen many things that contradict Michele's advice and others too. I have gone against some of the advice and it hasn't always proven to be wrong, but every individual and sitch is different. I try to pass things by my counselor, but sometimes even is knows that you just have to roll the dice. I am talking to two counselors now, even the bible says you shouldn't get counsel form one source alone, it is bad to do so.
Anyway I have been reading Stormie OMartian's book "Praying Through The Deeper Issues Of Marriage." This is a very good book. I am on chapter two where it talks about "If Anger, Rudeness, or Abuse Poisons Your Relationship." Well sad but true this chapter is really speaking directly to me on the anger part. I don't think I have severe anger problems, but this chapter pointed out that I must have some and I know that just based on some things my W has said. So am going to make a big effort to change that. I am going to talk to the counselors and pray a lot.
I would like to tell my W that she was right about this and that I have realized many things but have dug in deep on this issue to improve myself for me, her, and God. Now I may word it differently if I were to tell her, but I would like her to know the depth of my discovery. I'm just not sure to tell her or not, but I want her to see progress in me. With her living in her own place, very little contact or communication it makes it hard. My only choices are to call her at one job, go by her other job, or email her. Next Friday I will be going by one job to give her ring back. That's when the jeweler will be done making it pretty again. She hasn't been wearing it so I'm also wondering if I should mention that I would like it if she would wear her ring. It is one of the things that I have been praying. I love my W and would do anything to get her back home in my arms.
