I am doing good PH, thanks for asking. I need to get into that flylady program too. My house always feels like a disaster. I have been crying lately. I have been getting into this song from the Firepoof movie and it makes me very emotional.
I went to the Christian bookstore today and bought a CD and then like 5 books on clearance. One just spoke to me. The management guide for busy women or something like that. I will let you know if it's any good. It was really about organizing your life. Exactly what I need right now.
Went to a Christian festival this weekend that was awesome. Read my posts on Steelers thread in regards to my prayer session at the festival.
Missed a call from my h last night. It's unusual that he would call on a Fri night.
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"
That was nice of you to send your H the card. It will have a special meaning for him. And he will remember all of the other things you used to do for him on his special day. This year, he will not have those special moments but let him think about it this time.
He will probably thank you for the card.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
I have been crying lately. I have been getting into this song from the Firepoof movie and it makes me very emotional.
Hi glam, I am not sure if I can watch that movie. I hope my H watches it - that's up to God to control. Today, I finished reading Ed Wheat's book "How to Save Your Marriage Alone". It talks about women should respond with unconditional love to their WAH, while a man should love and pursue the WAW. The part for the man ssems to contradict Jim Conway's advice for MLC and Michele's advice for WAW.
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I went to the Christian bookstore today and bought a CD and then like 5 books on clearance. One just spoke to me. The management guide for busy women or something like that. I will let you know if it's any good. It was really about organizing your life. Exactly what I need right now.
Hope you like the books. Yes, please let me know what you think of them.
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Went to a Christian festival this weekend that was awesome. Read my posts on Steelers thread in regards to my prayer session at the festival.
Yeah, I did read your posts on Steeler's thread. Awesome prayer meeting. Not sure about your friend's experience though.
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Missed a call from my h last night. It's unusual that he would call on a Fri night.
That was nice of you to send your H the card. It will have a special meaning for him. And he will remember all of the other things you used to do for him on his special day. This year, he will not have those special moments but let him think about it this time.
He will probably thank you for the card.
Steelers, Thanks for your kind words. I do hope he sees my love in doing it, rather than assume I am trying to impress him. He has not thanked me for the card in previous years so I am not expecting him to this time.
It was an emotional day today. Someone professional today told me my M is over and was shocked when I told him it's not. I told him that even if my H filed, it wouldn't make a difference to me working on my M.
Ph the books I got were "How We Love" Milan and Kay Yerkovich very interested in starting this one and "Rescue your love life" Dr Townsend. I will let you know. I also got a Veggie Tale devotional for the kids and a book about love for my h. This will be his anniversary gift and then I will personalize the pages. Short read.
Yeah I don't know if you could see the movie or not. It was tough for me, but I want to see it again so bad. I loved it, but it is very painful. The trailer makes me cry.
Yeah I hear you on my friends prayer session. Not sure what to think, but I will stay still and let her do what she needs to do. Her mind is made up!
PH don't discuss your m with anyone but here. The world will never understand. They do not know God and all that he is capable of. God will restore if that is what he sees for your life. Your h has not filed that is a good thing.
Nice that you sent the b-day card. He will be appreciative.
Have you checked out the website divorceasfriends.com? Not the divorce part but it really has some good advice. It really talks about the love you show to another regardless of what does or does not happen in return.
Love unconditionally PH that is where you want to be. Don't worry about the hurt or being hurt. God will help you with that. Let me know what you think of that website.
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"
At least you got to let go of work for today, for a little while anyway.
I went to a C back in Jan. or Feb. This woman told me that she didn't think the R with my H & the OW would work but she said he is not coming back to you. That made me cry & I had no ideal why she said that, it was only my 2nd visit with her. I didn't go back. It was so discouraging.
I'm sure you have been so busy & not had time to check out others threads but I just feel this peace about things right now. I don't know if I'm right or not but I feel like eventually my H will have a change, not sure if he will come back to me or not & there is no way I should have any hope with what all has happened but I do still have it. Time will tell & I am doing my best to leave it in God's hands.
You take care of yourself & don't let work get you down!
I cannot believe that a C would tell you that! Only God knows the answer to that one. Of course it made you very upset. I am sure you learned something from that visit and that is to have full trust in God.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
You are so right! I didn't go back to another C after that one. I have talked with a couple of pastors but I'm just praying & like you said having trust & faith in God! I could be totally wrong but I think there is a reason I feel this peace. I don't know if it's me moving on or if I really haven't given up. I know I haven't given up, I'm trying to act as if he is not coming back but in the back of my mind I feel like he might. Only God knows & that is where I'm putting it, in His hands!
(((HUGS))) I so admire your faith & standing for you M.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
"Today, I finished reading Ed Wheat's book "How to Save Your Marriage Alone". It talks about women should respond with unconditional love to their WAH, while a man should love and pursue the WAW. The part for the man ssems to contradict Jim Conway's advice for MLC and Michele's advice for WAW."
My reason is that I have done so much reading since my W and I have been apart that I have seen many things that contradict Michele's advice and others too. I have gone against some of the advice and it hasn't always proven to be wrong, but every individual and sitch is different. I try to pass things by my counselor, but sometimes even is knows that you just have to roll the dice. I am talking to two counselors now, even the bible says you shouldn't get counsel form one source alone, it is bad to do so.
Anyway I have been reading Stormie OMartian's book "Praying Through The Deeper Issues Of Marriage." This is a very good book. I am on chapter two where it talks about "If Anger, Rudeness, or Abuse Poisons Your Relationship." Well sad but true this chapter is really speaking directly to me on the anger part. I don't think I have severe anger problems, but this chapter pointed out that I must have some and I know that just based on some things my W has said. So am going to make a big effort to change that. I am going to talk to the counselors and pray a lot.
I would like to tell my W that she was right about this and that I have realized many things but have dug in deep on this issue to improve myself for me, her, and God. Now I may word it differently if I were to tell her, but I would like her to know the depth of my discovery. I'm just not sure to tell her or not, but I want her to see progress in me. With her living in her own place, very little contact or communication it makes it hard. My only choices are to call her at one job, go by her other job, or email her. Next Friday I will be going by one job to give her ring back. That's when the jeweler will be done making it pretty again. She hasn't been wearing it so I'm also wondering if I should mention that I would like it if she would wear her ring. It is one of the things that I have been praying. I love my W and would do anything to get her back home in my arms.
