Ironically, during our practice session last night with the homework from counseling, he said and I quote "I was raised by people who think working this hard, this long is normal, there is nothing wrong with it."
And the retort that sprang into my head (that I did not vocalize) was "I bet that is what the alcoholic child of an alcoholic says too."
I think that's being unfair. America has long had a culture that places value on work over everything else. I'd go so far as to guess that you fall into that yourself. You shouldn't equate that in your H with alcoholism unless you're ready to shine that critical light on friends, family, and self as well. IMO. Criticism is easy, forgiveness and acceptance is hard, but they're required. Think of it in the context of teaching. Do you criticize your students for their backgrounds and varied learning approaches/abilities? At what point do you accept?
