Trusting, My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this time. Please take care of yourself.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Tomorrow is the wake.. I feel God has given me the strength to make it through this. I appreciate beyond words all the support I have gotten from all my friends here both on and off the boards. You guys are truly some of the most wonderful people I have ever met.
Many relatives have flown in from all over the country. My ex wanted to stop by to see all of them, but it really was not appropriate given everything. Some of my relatives would like to deck him others would like to hug him. I feel his drama is the last thing me and my family needs. I can't imagine how he feels about everything. All of my family thought he was the greatest thing. He will be one of the pallbearers. I hope that goes smooth.
Again, Thank you all so much for all your support.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
I am so sorry about your father. My condolences also. To get hit with the death of a family member plus MLC spouse is so overwhelming. I hope you are taking care of yourself.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Ex showed up about half way into it. OW was not with him. My family embraced him with the exception of a couple of people.
He continually cried throughout.
At the end of the wake he came up to me and hugged me for the longest time. He told me he was so sorry. I did not know if it was because my mother had passed away or if he meant regarding what he did.
It does not matter. I'll take what I can get.
The funeral starts in one hour. He is a pallbearer. I hope all goes well and he does not decide to bring OW to that. None of my in laws showed up yesterday.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
I don't think he would bring ow to something such as this. My thoughts and prayers are with you during this time.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Funeral was beautiful. He did not bring OW. He was very loving and hugged me twice very lovingly. He misses his family so much. Him being there made my relatives really confused because he acted so much like my old husband. He held my purse throughout the visit to the cemetary and opened car doors for me. He was such a gentleman.
My kids leave tomorrow with him and OW to Disney.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
My thoughts & prayers are with you!! I'm sorry you are going to be left alone without your kids right now. But maybe it will be good for you to collect your thoughts.
