Oh yes, I know that I am emotional. That's why sometimes even when he was here if I got upset over something I would call one of my friends and ask if I was over reacting. Even my mom would put me in my place and tell me to stop being over emotional!!
That is so sweet...Izzam glad you are starting to recognize when you are overreacting, and I want to know am I the only person on this board who is not ML to their WAS????? Lucky...I am envious!!!
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
Just wanted to say thanks for posting on my thread, and I hope all is going well with you. Sounds like there is some definite progress. Sorry but I'm not completely familiar with your situation. Where are you at in terms of knowing what your H wants? Has he said he wants to try, just needed a break, is there a set date on which you are going to reevaluate etc.?
ITH
Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
Hi istherehope - I do not know what H wants right now. The last time I tried to talk to him about it approx a month and half ago he didn't think there was anyway we could "fix" our relationship. He said everytime we talked we only argued...so right now I am just at the point of letting him see that we can talk with no R pressure and with out arguing.
Sounds like you are on the right path anyway. If you haven't argued for the last month and a half, then you are already proving him wrong :). I think that men are really afraid of constant arguing, and that it somehow really wears them down, maybe because they usually want solutions to problems rather than simply rehashing the problems? My H is like that too, and I think it's one of the reasons we are where we are, but there have been no arguments in the last month.
How often do you see/talk to your H? Are you happy with your progress to date?
ITH
Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
I think your H comes around to test your R and see if you guys can get along and he maintains the connection through ML. I don't think you're diappointing him
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
Aww thank you Jen...I needed that right now too!! Just got into one of my stupid funks...think I'm PMSing and started crying thinking about him not being here. I guess every now and then we do need to cry.
ISH - So far not more than 4 days have gone by without some sort of text be it just a random question or thought from him. Actually seeing each other...in the begining it was like once a month....now it has become a bit more frequent like at least every other week.
I am happy with the progress. I, like Jen, want everything to just happen fast and get a bit over-emotional when it doesn't but when I look over the past few months our interactions have improved drastically even though they still have many more ways to go.
I went to B&N today and picked up my own DR so now I can read it in its entirety and hopefully learn some more methods instead of just what I picked up from skimming it last time.
Hey Jen!! Life is ok right now. Had a good weekend did a bit of GAL....Friday went to visit my mom for her b-day and had a good lunch & movie with her then later went to the movies again with my BF. Saturday night a friend called and asked if I wanted to go for a drink and I went since I haven't done that in soooo long. It was cool too since she is married too so no pressure of meeting guys, etc just some girls having a few drinks and dancing a bit
I did slip and text him on the way home though It must have been the buzz, but he was nice about it....
The last I heard from him was yesterday when he said he would bring over some medicine for me that he had taken from me...still waiting. LoL I'm not going to harass him about it though he's probably been busy with work.
I have begun reading DB and I'm trying to just take in a chapter per night as my before bed reading. Hopefully it will sink in more so my mind can ponder it while I'm sleeping
It must have been the buzz, but he was nice about it....