Mine obviously thought it will be better when we separate, and more recently when the D is final. She is "stressed" constantly now and I have stopped asking why.
Before W moved in to her dump, she actually said to me "I'm very stressed right now but it will be better after I move" This was in reference to her panic attacks.
They lasted the better part of a year after she moved. I think she still has them but won't admit it.
I started out by listening to the stress in her voice but never asked her about it. Then I changed my mind.
Now when she sounds down, I often ask her if she is ok. I sometimes ask her if she would like to talk about it. She always says she is ok and never talks about it but I feel like I'm doing the right thing for asking.
I hope the day will come that she will open up and talk. We have never been good at communication. Given the opportunity, that will never be the case again.
M35 W37 S9 D6 M12 yrs Know 15 yrs Bomb 1/28/07 My Sitch Failure is the opportunity to start again more intelligently - Henry Ford
