Thank you so much you guys!! Feeling a bit better today and even more better since I finally think I am getting my car back...Wooo Hooo!!!!
Ok so I went to the dr on tues (gyno) so I could get back on pill....was off of them since about Jan...when H I were suppose to be "trying" any who when everything happened and H left I figured why get back on I'm not getting any.....and whenever we did at that point it wasn't often enough. Plus whenever we did I made sure it was the time of the month where I wasn't ovulating....
So point of the story when I went to the dr. he said my uterus felt "weird" and was sending me for an ultra sound that I might have fibroids. I never heard from H that day so I didn't rush to tell him. Today he started texing me asking if I went to the dr and if I got back on the pill. I told him yes, I was actually at the pharmacy when he was texting me. He then said "no kids" which I replied, "no not yet I guess " Then it was text after text, do you think your pregnant, did they take a pregnancy test...So I finally texted him telling him that the dr. did tell me that my uterus felt weird and was sending me for an ultra sound but he thinks that it is fibroids. He writes back.."could you be"...to which I tell him no I really don't think so, I told you dr thinks it is a cyst.
Now for some reason I feel nervous. Should I have told him nothing??? Like maybe he thinks I am telling him this to make him nervous...
I don't evenknow why I am nervous!! I mean I did tell him that I'm almost certain that I'm not prego and he is still my H he should know that I have to go get this ultrasound..right??
I just read back quickly through your sitch--the situation was that your H wanted kids right away and you didn't, is that correct? IMHO, I think it's fine that you told him, and he seems genuinely concerned/interested, esp. about whether you may be PG. Seems like that may be a defining issue for you guys?
It is in the shelter of each other that people live.--Irish proverb
Hi IAL!! - Yes that was an issue for us in the beginning now he says that he doesn't want kids, which does make sense since we are seperated.
I don't know just got nervous as if I might have pushed him away...felt like was being needy by saying I needed the exam. Maybe I'm just a little nutso right now!!! LoL
I don't think you did ANYTHING wrong. It's not needy to need a medical exam. Just take a break, do something nice for yourself so you can calm down.
From lots of reading on the boards, and my own sitch, spouses seem often to switch roles, not only during their marriage, but especially during crisis, like we're all experiencing. Seems like that's what's happened with the PG issue in your sitch?
Your H seems to genuinely care about you, so let him. I think you should keep him appraised of issues that effect your health. Even though my H and I are more estranged than you and your H seem to be, I KNOW he would want to know if I was going through something health-wise.
Now stop worrying about it and go do something fun! That's an order!
It is in the shelter of each other that people live.--Irish proverb
Thank again iamlost!! I know I think I might have been PMSing..lol. I got too nervous and when I went out to pick up my car from the shop I stopped and got a PG test..and nada.
So I texted him and he apologized and said he was just nervous. And yes the PG sitch is a complete 180 from last year.....
Ok so I definatly overreated the other day that i was doing something wrong..lol.
So last night he starts texting me if I am still awake..I tell him no I'm sleeping and he texts back that he is at a friends house not far away and passing by. He comes in and is a bit buzzed, we ML and then he spends the night. He wakes up in the am and we ML again. Then he gets up showers and says he has to go....so I just say ok, get up and start straightening up the house while he dresses. He started small chit chat and I continue it acting breezy and even giving him suggestions and lending him a magazine for a project that he was working on that I think could give him ideas....he lingers for a bit still chatting and laughing a bit.
It felt like a good exchange...no R talk just some light flirty chat. Then when he goes to the door he tells me is is leaving but lingers a bit a taking a long time to open the door and go through it...he said good-bye but wouldn't turn and look at me...and first I was a little insulted but then I had the overwhelming feeling that he didn't want to say good-bye which made me feel better.
I feel like our times together are getting better and more frequent. It went from once a month when he first left and now this month is the 3rd time already. It seems the more I go dim and only try to talk to him when he reaches out for me first he does it more frequently. I am hoping that I am on the right road to saving my marriage and will try...operative word, try very hard to appreciate every babystep that we share.
Hi! Sounds like a very positive interaction with your H! Did you see his face when he left this morning? He probably was sad to be leaving. Isn't it odd that we take joy in them being sad such evil LBS's!
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Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
LoL no didn't see his face, but his head was down. I know it's a mixture of "Good, be sad that you are leaving...it's your fault!!", and the school girl butterfly feeling of "Awwww he misses me & doesn't want to leave". Damn rollercoaster!!!
" Then it was text after text, do you think your pregnant, did they take a pregnancy test...So I finally texted him telling him that the dr. did tell me that my uterus felt weird and was sending me for an ultra sound but he thinks that it is fibroids. He writes back.."could you be"...to which I tell him no I really don't think so, I told you dr thinks it is a cyst. 