I see your frustration and I understand. I know people where I have prayed about them trying to figure out what words to say to encourage or perhaps help them to maybe change their approach a bit. Sometimes God gives me the words sometimes He does not.
I think that when I do not get words to help it is becasue this is a person only God can deal with. Sometimes people build huge walls up around themselves and NOTHING anyone can say will penetrate those walls, they just have to figure it out on their own.
I understand you are trying to help and yes many times people take things out of context or simply shut out any and all help. But that is ok, in time God reaches the people he needs to reach with the right words to guide them back to what He needs them to do.
