I really was not attempting to attack you for your views. The truth is that it was really qoe who I felt went way over the top in the way her case was presented to SteelersFan.
Strangely enough, I agree with you about the fact that many people here are STUCK because they choose to sit back and let things unfold, sometimes under the guise of "letting God do His work."
As a christian myself, I fully recognize the power of allowing God to direct us in the different paths our life travels. But my understanding of God is that He desires US to use the gifts and talents He has given us, NOT sit back and wait for Him to simply work a miracle.
That being said, perhaps I misunderstood what was written earlier. In looking at it now, I still get the impression that those who hold to a "let God do it" approach are given the suggestion that perhaps another site would better meet their needs. I don't think that's right. But I understand you meant differently.
The bottom line I think is that we are always free to share our thoughts and our advice to others. This is a public forum and when we start a thread here we implicitly invite others to read and participate.
But we should not get up in arms if our advice is not heeded, or even worse rejected. We are all in different places in our lives with different beliefs.
I remember SteelersFan since the day I joined this site I think. She has consistently held to the belief that God would have her welcome her husband unconditionally and have her wait for him to finish his journey. She does not believe in boundaries and does not feel as though it is productive to pressure her husband.
These are her beliefs, take them or leave them. I have posted to her occassionally when I felt she was really being mistreated by either her husband or son, but she holds firm to her convictions.
In my opinion, qoe became antagonistic when SF rejected her advice. Soon came what I call badgering and then dark predictions of her future should she continue on that course.
None of those things are called for.
Naej, I think you have insightful advice to offer and have almost always agreed with the things you have shared with others. Choosing to not post is your prerogative, but I would hope you would not choose to do so because of my comments.
There is room for all of us here.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
