Awesome, h4h! Seeeeeee.....you CAN have fun with people that are not of the opposite sex. Being flirted with is fine.....just don't cross the line no matter what. You want to be able to hold your head high. I'm glad you had a good time. YOu really needed that.
Keep your eye on the goal. No puppy dog face around W. Show her the guy she wants to be with. Don't be her "friend" and help her out. Let her run her own errands, etc.
OK, you know the drill....just thought you'd want to hear it again from me.
Passed out on the bed last night and forgot to set my alarm. At 7:15am something made me open my eyes. Whewww!
My Guardian Angel? Thanks dub A little hung over, but feel good. Aspirin works wonders for me. My boss is lauging at me.
The first bar was kind of quiet. YOUNG crowd. Felt like we were watching a folksy, punky Jonas Brothers. Mostly college age kids that were under 21. Small hole in the wall. Not sure how they're going to make money. Not much drinking. Stayed for the first set. Folk rock. Original stuff. Bar is called "The Warhol".
Left there and hit a bar I know that usually has live music. "Roxies". Rock cover bands. Small place and LOUD. The wife and I would go, sometimes a while back. My kind of crowd and music. D11 started texting me at about 10:30. Back and forth. Told her I was listening to a band.
Hope she told her mom
Took some video and pictures of the bands at both places for her to see when she gets back.
Because of the beer I was drinking, I got called up to the front and took some pictures with the Bud girls and a couple of ladies that were drinking the same thing, and I got to hold a Bud guitar.
An H4H sandwich. Sweet!
Got a free beer out of it. A girl and I kept meeting eyes from across the bar. I was doing it purposely. Just being cool about it. I kept catching her.
Testing myself. Never went over, but I feel like some day if I do, I'll be ok. AFTER the D. Then in front, watching the band, the girl next to me kept bumping me while she was shaking it. She was there with a couple of guys. I kept my hand on the bar and watching the band and jamming out myself, she kept moving her hand over and touching mine. Even my bud noticed it. She had plenty of space on the other side. "Dude, she wants you." "Of course, man. Why wouldn't she?"
We laughed.
Left there at about 1am. My bud wanted to stop by a place he knows. Hole in the wall by his house. Felt like playing darts. He's on a league. I was too about 15 years ago. Haven't played in about 2 years. Threw some darts with a woman he knew there. He won the first game. I beat him the second.
Not too bad for such a long layoff. Closed the place down. We told each other that we need to get out more. Keep in touch like we used to. His kids are great. I am godfather to his oldest. She is the same age as my S14. They used to spend a lot of time together as toddlers.
We ALL did. Barbeques. Boxing fights. Spurs games on tv. The good days. After high school, we moved in together. One night we got so drunk that we cut our hands with a dull knife and became blood brothers.
Dumb asses. But that is how close we were. We will be again.
But he encourages hanky panky. That might be a problem. He's typical macho guy, but he did talk about how he has had to change for his girls. He was the type that would never change a diaper. Now he has to deal with periods and stuff.
He got what he deserved
I think I'm going to like this GALing. I am ready for some more fun tonight. No plans but will just see what happens for the day.
I know that I AM going to need a nappy after work, though
Me 47, WW 38 SS18, D15, D10
Good Bye Girl. No longer SAYING she's moving out. GBG moved out 8-1-08
"I have now decided to enjoy life instead of figure it out."
It's so great to see you happy, h4h. And, it will be great for your wife to see you happy. Even though the guy you went out with encourages hanky panky (he's already divorced, right?), doesn't mean you gotta, and it looks like you have it all under control. Watch the alcohol...sometimes makes us do things we wouldn't do if we thought about it....and I know you have been struggling with this "girl thing".....just be careful. I can hear you say, "Yes, Mother!!" from way down there in Texas.
Remember what you want, and know that no matter what you will be ok. Keep praying.
Nope. He is just separated 4 months. I kept in control. It was just good to be out with an old friend. The 2 Rascals. I plan on getting into the live music. Love that stuff. The last time I went out was with B and another friend to see Journey. Been a month already. The Jazz Fest is coming up next month and plan on taking a couple more girls.
D11 and D6
We'll have a blast being outside listening to some good music on a blanket in the grass.
Last night was weird to see couples, though. I saw guys that I thought were goobers with some nice looking ladies.
Kept thinking, "How come not me? Why don't I have mine?"
Still had a good time, though.
Still at home. Had some lunch and rested. Its raining pretty hard right now. May be a stay in night.
We'll see.
Me 47, WW 38 SS18, D15, D10
Good Bye Girl. No longer SAYING she's moving out. GBG moved out 8-1-08
"I have now decided to enjoy life instead of figure it out."
If you do stay in...make it a good "stay in" night. Prepare now...what would you need to make it nice....snacks? movies? magazines? cigar? cashews? beer? wine? cd from the library or buy a new one? sports game on at a certain time? Maybe make something in the oven? You like making special treats for the kids...maybe something special???? I love staying in when it is raining........
I did end up having a stay home night. Got a lot of needed rest. I haven't slept well this past week and then Friday....I just needed it. Watched some Olypics. I went into town to pick up a video, return one of the shirts I got a couple days ago and get some more school supplies for D11. She and I must have had at least 15 text exchanges. She always initiates them and I hope her mother realizes it, but I think D11 does it when GBG is not around.
I really miss them.
Friday, during my lunch, I also went to buy a new belt at a clothing store. Now, I know that my exSIL from my first marriage works there. At least she used to. I have been thinking a lot about my first wife. I have spoken to my exSIL before at the store once. Compared to the rest of her family, she was the black sheep and we always got along. I have even run into my ex's older brother and his family on several locations. Our relationship was always strained, but he was always nice when we've seen each other after the divorce. Even came up to me with his whole family at a restaurant to say hello. Introduced him to my new family. D6 was maybe 18 months old.
He became nice AFTER the divorce.
I have NEVER run into my ex, though. As small as my world is here, and all the people I run into, including her family, I find it strange to never have run into her. Even her favorite cousins wife was a nurse at the nursery where D6 was born. My world here is really small. I hear she still has the house, remarried, had a child.
I think about her because I was the one that left.
I have said before that I have become a firm believer in "What goes around, comes around." I'm getting what I deserved. The difference is that she didn't really fight for us. One suggestion of counseling and a couple attempts at contact and that was it.
I told myself that if my exSIL was there, that I would ask about her sister and maybe get an email address. Maybe apologize to my ex. Something I have lived with for years.She wasn't there.
I go to return my shirt at Kohls and who is working customer service? Yup. ExSIL.
After someone else helped me, I go to her register and say "Hey, you sure get around."
She agrees and asks how I'm doing. I say really good and say goodbye because she is busy.
What are the odds? And to not have seen my ex in 15 years just amazes me. Must be a reason for it. But to see my exSIL when I just thought about looking for her JUST the day before. I hadn't thought about her for a couple years. Last time I saw her was when I found out she worked at that place. She met the whole family. Even GBG.
Anyhow, I went to rent a video. "The Eye". Kind of trippy. Went to the grocery store to get the supplies and got myself a steak to cook.
Night wasn't so bad. It is just weird when you are totally alone at home and you really don't want to be. I don't think that you girls here really understand the feeling. Your kids are with you most of the time. You probably welcome the time alone sometimes. What I'm experiencing with them gone a week at a time, is HARD. The house is TOO quiet and I hate it.
And they are not coming back HERE until after school on Monday. We all decided to let them get to school from the apartment on Monday.
I can' wait until I see them tomorrow.
Time for church now.
Me 47, WW 38 SS18, D15, D10
Good Bye Girl. No longer SAYING she's moving out. GBG moved out 8-1-08
"I have now decided to enjoy life instead of figure it out."
Hey I about died last weekend with FH taking them and not even bothering to tell me that he was going to make them stay over with him, so if your week is anything like my weekend, I get it.
So are you wanting to apologize to your ex or what is your goal? Do you think this would be good for her or are you just feeling the need to do this? Maybe this is why you haven't seen her. If you feel the need to make something right, check oput your motives first.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
