Hi Fire: Just reading your thread a bit. I think it is okay for you to discuss your D, just do it with respect. Regardless of the "as if" you still have a right to be uncomfortable with your child.
In terms of your convo re: boss, she may have thought about what you said, but I would like to caution you about convo's like that. Right now, your W feels guilty enough, and convo's like that can ultimately make the WAS feel worse. If they feel worse, they are not going to stay to try to make things right, they are going to run to try to make themselves feel better. Remember, right now your W is not thinking about anyone but herself. It is a horrible thing, but guilt feelings will not make them better. Trust me on this, I have tried that one, and it does NOT work . It just pushes them further away.
The thing is, if she brought up the boss, the chances are that she was already thinking what you told her. Let her stew on it in her own mind. You would be surprised, the mind is the greatest asset, and if we just let them think about it, sometimes they come to their own conclusions.
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
