After I calmed down, I decided to call someone from my church who is a lawyer. He's not a D lawyer himself, but I figured that he could refer me toward someone locally who is good. He wasn't home, but I got his wife, who offered her sympathy and said that she would have her husband call me later today. She also warned me that even if my W may have gone into the legal formalization process with the best of intentions, that as soon as attorneys get involved, things get more adversarial as financial "rights" get brought up for consideration.
One of the minor pluses in the situation is that if we go to court, the family court judges in our county are all men who take a *very* dim view on WAS's, especially ones that commit adultery while still living at home. I've already been informed by one lawyer friend that W screwed herself over not just by beginning PA while still living at home, but then moving in with OM immediately, then letting him pay the tab for expenses and leaving a long and large paper trail to prove it. The fact that OM, with whom she is co-habitating, is an alcoholic who has fallen off the wagon as recently as two weeks ago would also play a huge part in determining custody arrangement. I don't want to have to play hardball, but I refuse to let my children's well-being be jeopardized by W's infatuation with her alcoholic OM.
I'll try to take your advice craig, not think about the mess, and have fun on the campout.
Me: 47 Kids: 2 boys, 14 & 8 Bomb: 5/5/08 Married: 16 years, together 20 Divorce final 8/11/10 I remarried, to an amazing woman: 3/17/12... "Once in awhile, in an ordinary life, love gives us a fairy tale"
