is it really true?

[W2G]

(((((((((((Stella))))))))))))))

You hang in there honey.. I agree with SMW.. he is easily swayed.

Please take care of yourself.. I'm worried about this fainting thing. Has this happened before or do you think it's the additional stress along with everything else that caused it?

Super hugs,
W2G

[happynow]

Stella,

Are you all right??? I'm like W2G, I'm concerned about the fainting.

You hang in there, I'm not sure it's all over just yet.

((((HUGS))))

[stella_k]

((((W2G, nlt)))),

I'm fine, thank you!

I cannot stand the heat and I fainted once before after being in the sun for a long time, got a blue eye and looked like a Panda for a month or so. It could hhave been stress-related as well, of course, but the combination of walking in the sun, not sleeping and taking AD would be generally enough.

I'm not as detached as I would like to be and still working on the acceptance thing, but I'm doing ok. Given that D and I are leaving tomorrow... I'm doing fine

Sorry that I'm not posting on your threads, things get hectic here with all the last minute packing.

[Yoyowife]

Stella,

I don't think I have ever posted to you before, but I have been keeping up with your thread. I was so hoping that H had come to his senses and thought he had there for a moment. Your H seems so much like mine. One minute they want to be with you and the next minute the OW has them under their spell again.

This behavior seems to be very textbook for WAS/MLC. I haven't quite figured them out yet. They are absolutely sure of what they want and then a few days later they are "confused" again. I don't know what the solution is. Do you give up and move on or do you keep DBing? Right now I choose to keep DBing. I believe that your marriage is not over yet. My advice is to read all you can about MLC. I know my H sure seems to fit it.

Again, I just wanted to drop by and let you know I'm thinking of you.

Hugs, Yoyo

[poet]

Hi Stella,

I have been off the boards lately, for the most part. But, I wanted you to know I'm still here and thinking about you. I keep up with your thread from time to time, so I think you are doing fantastic under the circumstances. How does it feel to be home?

Also, YoYo, I don't know if you're still reading Stella's thread, but I wanted to piggyback my comments onto your post because I think it would be good for everyone, me, you, Stella ... I just wanted to add, that I think we are all in similar places right now with our emotions (at least it seems that way, when our registration dates are similar)."Do you give up and move on or do you keep DBing? Right now I choose to keep DBing."

Here are my thoughts:

I am continuing to DB, but I am also giving up on the R. My H is so much darker now then he was at the beginning of all this, and I am tired. Tired of waiting, tired of doing for him, tired of expecting, tired of the emotional rollercoaster. I told him the other night that he was right, way back, when he said "...there is no healing." I have given up, dropped the rope and seen the light. I am moving on. That's what he wants me to do. He has said it, so many times, and I believe him now. I'm moving on. But, if a miracle were to happen and he wants to work on the M ... well, we'll never know, I guess, until it happens.

hugs,
poet

[addie]

Hi Stella,
I know that you are leaving with D for a few days to see her off to College. Good luck!
You are doing amazingly well under the circumstances. It's really difficult to detach completely.
Hang in there - you know we are all here for you!

[stella_k]

Dear ((((Yoyo)))), nice meeting you and thank you for posting!

I have no time to read or post now as I'm leaving tonight, I'll read your thread when I'm back.

((((Poet)))), I'm still abroad (sigh) and I'm not going to get home until Sept 6th. Looking forward to it!

((((Addie)))), thanks, I need some luck now, that's for sure !

I was snooping today (2x4, self-served) and found H's record of a dream he saw, dated Aug 21st, the day after he arrived. In the dream he got introduced to OW's family and they approved of their M !
Don't really know what to make out of it - just a dream? After all, in order to marry OW, he has to D me first! wishful thinking? - so I've decided not to think of it at all.

Does it mean I'm getting ready to let go and move on? Possibly.

I will have plenty of time on the plane, will think some more !

Love and (((HUGS))) to all.

[happynow]

Hi Stella,

Just wanted to let you know we are here for you & thinking about you.

Hang in there!

((((HUGS)))))

[addie]

After all, in order to marry OW, he has to D me first! wishful thinking? - so I've decided not to think of it at all.

Stella,
Remember the stats I posted on WAS marrying the affair partner - not very good odds. Unless you are certain you want the M to end now and decide to file for D, there's still time for H to change his mind. He would have to file and go through all the legal proceedings before he could M OW. A lot can happen in that time.

[happynow]

Stella & Addie,

My H did marry OW & I still haven't given up! I just feel like I shouldn't give up. I'm not dwelling on it & I could be wrong, but that is where I'm at right now!

((((HUGS)))