First, while watching football practice this morning, my friend Dave (of the couple I had been mentioning in other posts), tells me that W made nice with OM even after he abandoned her at least partially because OM promised to take her to Jamaica for the Christmas holidays. On top of that, he also told me that in one of the arguments that W and OM had during the camping trip with regard to his abandoning her, she had said in front of everyone that she was "just mad because you went without me."
THEN, I come home to find a letter from an attorney, advising me that he has been working with W on a legal separation agreement on her behalf, that I should probably get a lawyer, and that he has forwarded W a Statement of Net Worth for her to fill out.
MIL had mentioned the other day that W had said that D stuff was being set in motion by her, and that she was planning on the whole NYS deal of just being legally separated for a year and then it "automatically turning into a D." I didn't believe that W was serious at the time, but now the L's letter is staring me in the face.
Crap, crap, crap.
I don't even know if I can afford to get a lawyer (or how to find a good one) or what W will be asking for in a separation agreement.
Part of me wants to call her and ask. Originally, she wanted NO money from me at all, just expected me to pay specific bills (including the mortgage), and we had a very agreeable custody arrangement, and had stated that all she wanted to do was formalize this.
Now, I'm scared that she's been talked into - by OM (who is a financial planner and is paying for her attorney)- asking me for $$$ for spousal support and/or steps that would force me to sell my house.
I don't want to overreact, but I don't want to get screwed over. On the one hand, she may truly only be looking to formalize the agreement we had set in place, as she originally claimed. On the other hand, i don't want to get blindsided by her asking for 50% spousal support (which I'd never go for, and she wouldn't be awarded anyway, since OM and her have been co-habitating with him picking up the bills).
As you can imagine, my morale has taken a HUGE hit on a day when I'm supposed to be a perky parent for oldest son's campout.
Me: 47 Kids: 2 boys, 14 & 8 Bomb: 5/5/08 Married: 16 years, together 20 Divorce final 8/11/10 I remarried, to an amazing woman: 3/17/12... "Once in awhile, in an ordinary life, love gives us a fairy tale"
