Need Advice Please!

[twinhope]

I have been out of town for work so my H had the girls on Wed and Thurs. This is his weekend and he let me keep them on Fri night. He just picked them up. He gave me a hug when he came in. This was the first time I had seen him since last Thurs. He stayed and talked for a little bit. He wasn't quick to leave. We are suppose to go to a friends wedding in September and our girls are the flower girls. I asked him if he was going and he said yes. He then asked if I was going and we both talked as if we had to b/c of the girls. He was suppose to be the best man but was kicked out b/c of his actions as of late.

He was doing a lot of talking about his friends and how they all have not been there for him. Everything is always about him and I just listened. He used to take the lead with every relationship ie. me, friends, family. Now he feels that it is everybody else's turn to ask him to do things and take the lead and if they don't then forget them, they never cared about me anyway. Same thing he says about me.

I told him we could go with his new schedule. He thanked me and he also gave me money which is his new thing now. He already pays for the bills of the house but now he is giving me $300 extra a month.

I feel like whatever steps I take I am making a mistake. I would like to invite him to activities out of the home, I just feel like he is living this other life now and he is content with it. New friends, young friends possibly OW(21yr old). I don't think he thinks about our R at all.

What really gets me is that he has lost all responsibility. He knows that we have dogs and someone needed to take care of them when I was gone. He never offered. I had a friend do it. Then the yard needs taken care of. I have asked him to help me with this and he said to just call when I want him to do. Why can't he offer. He knows how hard it is for me to get everything done work full time, take care of the girls, clean house, yard work. I hope that he is just in a really bad fog and that he will soon come out of it!