He has told his entire family that he is in love with her. I pushed him away she captured his heart.
Sandy,
btw, your position on this -- to your husband, his family, and your closest friends, is this:
"That's high-school, immature bullshit. Love is a decision; you don't just "capture someone's heart" unless they have made that conscious choice to make themselves available. Yes, I will acknowledge my role in the challenges in our marriage, and I will own up to my 50%. But I will NOT take responsibility for your/my husband's affair, and I remain willing to work on our marriage. If you/he doesn't want to do that, then that's your/his choice, but don't try to sell that 'capture your heart' crap around me, cuz I ain't buyin'. We have three children that need their parents to be MATURE and to try everything they can before deciding to cut and run. I'm still committed to trying that, but unfortunately I can't make that decision for you/him."
