She was on vicodin for infected tooth again, so when I got home from the gym, I knew she would be in the mood to talk. I was very up beat... almost too much, but I sat down on the couch and we watched the Texans vs Cowboys game. During the game, somehow we wound up in small talk and it turned into a very in depth conversation about her boss, who is widowed and looking to get a new man. She was married to a drug-addict and stayed with him for over 19 years while he treated her terribly. She talked about how she was a prayer warrior and never gave up and would keep forgiving him. I saw this as a grand opportunity to covertly send her a message about our R.
I said "wow, you know she may have had a rough time during all that, but her reward in Heaven will be awesome because of her sacrifice and willingness to remain faithful to her husband even though he was abusing her". Then I asked "why is it that people like him, and other's who willfully do things over and over again, with no desire to change, no conviction whatsoever seem to end up with people who will never give up on them, and will always take them back,
and then you get those who try to do what is right, feel terrible when they do wrong, love their family, would do anything to change and as soon as they do something that's "less than perfect", they get tossed out to the curb like an old pair of shoes?"
She just kinda shrugged her shoulders in agreement, but didn't say much in response. I wonder if it made her think about us or not. I went up stairs and retired quickly after that.
Me: 31 W: 34 D: 7
Together: 13 yrs. Married: 7/19/97 :11 yrs
Bomb: 3/07 1st separation: 3/07 Back together: 4/07 Best 6 months of our life 4/07-2/08 2nd bomb: 3/08 separated again: 5/08 Moved back in against her wishes: 8/3/08
