Karen: Yes, your W I think is in MLC, so I do think they come out of that from what I've read but it can take a while, sometimes a long while. Do you think she even reads those emails she sends you as that is just weird, don't you think?
I know it will take her a long time to come out of the MLC, and I won't be the same person I was when she left, I relized last night I have to get out from under this cloud, I took a good look at myself and things are going to have to change. I've been in surviving mode, just trying to get through all of this, now I need to get back to working on myself, softball was a good GAL but there is more work to do, I don't want to be a angry person, thats not very attractive. I know W reads the e-mails, she is trying sooo hard to be nice to me, trying to engage me in any type of communication, but I just ignor her and quietly go about my business.
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Cat:Hmm, it'd take more than 3mths for her to crash, my stbx crashed after 8mths, but sadly it was a bad crashed that short circuited his brain, he is still a mess
I do expect it to take some time, and its going to be ugly when it happens. I will do anything to help her that I can, but she will never step back into this house or my heart because I know she is not capable of doing the work that needs to be done to regain my trust, she could never do what whatdidido is doing.
Thank you all for checking in on me, you are all so nice to me. I post my thoughts, I post my problems, my feelings and you all respond and help and I do nothing for you, I take more than I give and I am sorry I don't post more. I do read your post, I know karen is going through the big storm in FL. I know H4H just went through the same thing I did with his W moving out. I know whatdidido is working hard on her relationship and I know Kat is looking forward to moving on and meeting a nice guy. I will make a better effort to post.
I'm scared to post to the new people here, because I know what they want (to reconcile) and It's always been black and white to me, give up OM/OW and then I'm open to reconciliation otherwise get out. Its the stubborn old German in me, thats how my post started New Abbreviation for everyone TSO = throw spouse out and I don't want to lead anyone away from reconciliation.
M45 W41 M10.75 years D9, D6, D6, S5 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08 W files for D 07/18/08 Date I'll forgive W for A = never
