I agree with Puppy. Anything your H say's now.....and probably for the next 6 - 12 months or so is just rubbish. Let it roll off your back like water off a ducks.
I know when you are hurting it is hard to let these things not get to you...and each text makes it seem so much worse....but remember we have been there - lived through it...including the pain, (and we felt EXACTLY like you do now), but we know it won't last. We have the benefit of hindsight.
Let's see, my wife told me, during her affair:
- "I hate you"
- "I want a divorce"
- "I'll just file for divorce then!"
- "I can't stand the sight of you!"
- "You just blew ANY chance we had of EVER getting back together!" (this was when I exposed her affair)
- "You're an ass."
. . . and those were just the GOOD ones.
Oh, and she also told OM:
- "He (meaning me) makes me sick."
- "Just the thought of staying married to him (me) makes me PHYSICALLY SICK TO MY STOMACH!"
btw, just FIVE DAYS after texting OM "I love you" and "No one's ever done it for me the way you do," she had ended it with him, was thinking about getting a restraining order against him, and told me she loved me, had ALWAYS loved me, that I was "her home" and begged me to take her back and forgive her for her waywardness.
