Wow, that is incredible!!!!! I have to admit, I did feel a long while back, when he was popping in to do DIY and leaving before you saw him, that your sitch was dead in the water. How wrong could I have been !
You say you're not 100% sure your want to be M to him again...but as they say about how long it took a WAS to get to that point, it would take as long to rebuild things.. same goes for you, it may take you a long while, as long as you were a LBS to work out if things are now ok and this is how you want things to remain (as opposed to asking for a D). So give yourself lots of months to find out the answer ro that quetion?
I think you should wait...you texted him a thankyou and alos a quesion, so to text again, frustrating as it is to wait, mught be a bit purseueing?? People dont not ger text messages generally, so he is not replying, perhaps becuase he is still digesting?
He may have been a bit confused that you wouldnt sleep with him ? From what you have said he has been pretty persistently hinting about that and you rebuffed it. Sounds like the date went super well though, so I cant imagine that he will snap shut again, maybe just keep on waiting.
You must be thrilled and SOOOOO vindicated that he said sorry AND that he said he hadnt meant what he said. God, I think a huge weight would lift off of me if my ex said that to me, that he hadnt meant IDLYA, he just wanted desperately to get away. AND he said he loved you !!!!! Amazing.
You are the DB queen! And yes, you have given me a little bit of inspiration today, just when I needed it.
Can I ask you...when did this start for you? When did you first notice things were wrong and when did he first express doubts about your R? It says you were S from last Septmeber, so less than a year just and he wants to try again, thats pretty good going. I'm soooooo happy for you !!! Its fantastic news.
Ali xxx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
