It seems to me that as long as I don't show any insecurities, act 100% confident and happy with the current situation and completely ignore any talk about the OM/past/current 'shadowy' behaviour then my wife is more than happy to see me.
Basically, my wife and I had ANOTHER exchange of words regarding things that bother me since she has ended things with the OM.
I do have definate confirmation that the OM considers the affair over with... but I remain skeptical about my wife's feelings and decision to work on the marriage. Here is why:
1. Although it would be highly beneficial financially and, (in my view) emotionally, my wife refuses to discuss living together and says she 'isnt willing to let go of her independence' and 'likes space'. I, on the other hand, am happy to just be around her and feel that is exactly the kind of thing we need.
2. Although she is saying we are now officially working on things she refuses to tell either the (ex)OM or related friends that she is seeing me etc. She says this is because she feels embarrassed and would get lectured by these individuals (I always told these individuals that she loved me and this was a fling that would never last). She HAS told friends in this country though...
I feel skeptical about her feelings. I wonder how serious she is about working on things.
