I agree with Puppy. Anything your H say's now.....and probably for the next 6 - 12 months or so is just rubbish. Let it roll off your back like water off a ducks.
I know when you are hurting it is hard to let these things not get to you...and each text makes it seem so much worse....but remember we have been there - lived through it...including the pain, (and we felt EXACTLY like you do now), but we know it won't last. We have the benefit of hindsight.
As a woman, statistically you are much more likely to have your H return. Puppy was lucky with his W- often WAW's have made the decision and are truly emotionally gone with no hope of retrieval at this stage, (not always but often). With men it is not nearly as final at this point. You do need to give this time.
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
