Employ the 48-hour rule. No actions, no conversations on any of this w/H for the next 48-hours. It will give you time to think and let calm, rational thought prevail instead of an emotional reaction. Acting right now won't help anything, and if you still, once calm, want to address the issue, a couple of days won't hurt.

I know it's hard, but you don't know the story. DB basics: GAL, work on PMA, 180s, stop snooping, focus on YOU. You can only control you, and like I said, you don't have the full story.

But for now, breathe. Take a bath. Read a book. Listen to soothing, beautiful music. NO R talk. Now is the time to fake it until you make it.

You can do this. You are okay. You will be okay no matter what, alright?

SD

Me: 40
H: 43
H had EA from 2/06-9/06
Bomb 5/06
Piecing since 9/2006
3/2008: Boundary setting
7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb.
8/2010: Marriage finally on track!