But my concern is since my H is "in love" & in the MLC fog nothing would suit him more than if I detach. When he notices I'm going on with my life, it frees him of his guilt & is he not thinking "see, she's going to be fine, what I'm doing is not so bad". (?????)
I think this kind of illustrates this idea.
If your spouse is in MLC it means you're probably in it for the long haul. It means you really do have to make yourself happy because your spouse isn't going to be doing it and your efforts to try to get them to see your views or care about your wishes during this time may be fruitless.
But that does not mean you are powerless. You may need to be more creative in finding ways to to make the communication you have be more productive. It actually CAN be a great time of skill building. You SHOULD be trying different things.
sg Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001
