I was thinking it would be kind of fun to fix a big pan of lasagna...H's favorite and surprise him, just have it sitting on the back patio one night when he got off of work!....any feed back??
Yes, I think that is a good idea. Just make sure no animals can get into it before he does! Do you think it would be more fun not to leave a note or anything......just leave the lasagna? It would be "maybe" more mysterious. Although, he proably knows your lasagna very well and will have no problems in knowing where it came from. Then you have throw the ball back over in his court and you can see if he will respond. If he calls and thanks you for the Lasagna or even acts dumb and asks if you left it......maybe play dumb and all innoncent like and just have a little fun with it. If the two of you could start joking and learning how to have fun with each other again.....I think it would hlep his anger problem and you could certainly relax and show off that great personality and humor you have.
Schedule a outing of mud bogging... with some random people.. and hope he shows up.
Day on the lake.. small group.. you bring your dogs.. he brings his. These ideas from Forrest......anything that would show H that you are having a "life" and causally inivite him along for the fun.......in the beginning of this...ahhh...."project"..."man hunt".....whatever we call this. I don't think he would feel threatened in any way if there were some others around. Also, if he refused the invitation, you could act all nonchalant about it and say, "Okay, maybe next time...we are going to have a blast". As you do these type of tings from time to time and try to build back a "friendship" thing that is like a "no strings attached" for him, so he doesn't get all freaked out, then slowly when you think he is ready for a more one on one time......you will know and I'm sure you can think of ways to inspire him. Does he have a birthday coming up soon? Are these plans you've made, are they during the labor day weekend? I know you mentioned a family reunion this weekend (I get confused...sorry ) To invite him to a family reunion is not good, but you coudl be thinking of something to get together for labor day weekend----if you don't have to work! That doesn't leave much time for you to get that lasagna out there! If you do come up with some plans for a "group" event, maybe leave him a dish of his favorite food with a note attached that says something to this effect....."For more of this great stuff.....follow the attached map with instructions".
If he bring up that blasted pool subject again......and if you know what you want to do.....just tell him what it is and do it and get it over with. If you don't know what you want, then act all "girly" as if you don't have a clue (you know how men like that..lol...sorry guys) and tell him to do whatever he thinks is best b/c he is living there. Now I know that would be very hard for you as you've explained, but do you want to be right or be happy? I just hate to see a couple's R end b/c of a darn "pool"! I know that isn't all of it and probably only the icing on the cake, but it seems to be the black hole at the moment. It needs to be closed ASAP.
Let me know what you are going to do and then we can go from there. I can think of the ideas........Forrest isn't the only one around here that has an imagination.....lol.
Excuse me for a minute, if you don't mind, I need to ask FG what something means.
Take care and don't work too hard. Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
) To invite him to a family reunion is not good, but you coudl be thinking of something to get together for labor day weekend----if you don't have to work! That doesn't leave much time for you to get that lasagna out there! If you do come up with some plans for a "group" event, maybe leave him a dish of his favorite food with a note attached that says something to this effect....."For more of this great stuff.....follow the attached map with instructions".