Hi NG- I am sorry you have had a rough day. As hard as it is, try not to let your H's selfishness get to you...I know easier said than done. It took me years to figure out that I just have to ignore so much of what my XH does. You want to encourage him to have the best relationship possible with the kids but it is hard to do when hurtful things are said and done. Unfortunately, my kids have been stuck in the middle for most their entire childhood...I have done my best (most of the time...I am no saint) to minimize it but I have recently come to realize that my XH and his wife's guilt won't let them give me any credit for doing anything right. I just have to let it all go.
Your parents must know by now what you are going through. I hope you can try talk to them...you certainly have enough to adjust to. My mother used to complain about her H all of the time...I think since I have started to go through all of this with my H, my mother has had a small change in attitude. I think the people that come to this board (and stay long term) are a unique breed...but I hope that maybe our way of thinking will catch on to others...especially those who know us and love us.
I hope you can enjoy the rest of your weekend. Go out and find some fun things that you like to do...it will be good for you.
