Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
Wow Frank! You've finally made it to the summit. I was wondering how long it was going to take you to realize this obvious next step.
Beware, the decent can be just as tricky and exhaustive.
Quickly take advantage of your new situation. Don't be idle with your spare time. Fill it with things to do and/or people to see. Keep your mind, body, and soul occupied!
"It is curious that physical courage should be so common in the world and moral courage so rare." -Mark Twain
I'm capable of making this work, I need to be free of the BS to do it.
I understand what you mean about being free of the BS. After my W left I basically through myself in to my company and took on the mission of making it better. 19 months later, I have a company that is completely different in terms of the way it runs and it's debts and expenses. As much as I miss my kids when my W has them, I value that time to achieve my goals.
I hope you are right and this time with your W out of the house will all you to achieve your goals.
M35 W37 S9 D6 M12 yrs Know 15 yrs Bomb 1/28/07 My Sitch Failure is the opportunity to start again more intelligently - Henry Ford
Today W called to tell me that she feels uncomfortable leaving the girls with me because she doesn't trust me not to drink. She threatened to get a lawyer, find out her rights, kick me out, etc..
She called later and back pedalled on her stand. Apparently she talked to D17 to 'let her know' that if dad was ever drinking she could call her for 'help'.
D17 told her that since she didn't live here any more it wasn't any of her business what happens in this house.
So, W said to me that whatever MIGHT happen is part of the lessons the girls and I are learning together. And, she says, they seem to be 'protecting me' from her.
Now, all she is going to do is talk to them and let them know that if they don't want to live with me they can always come and be with her.
She also said that 'we' need to keep the house so they have stability.
I told her she could call me randomly in the evenings if it would make her feel better but she said that she shouldn't have to feel like she has to 'check up' on me. That it's her fears and issues about drinking that she has to deal with herself.
Then she went on to talk about D13's birthday party in 2 weeks, and asked if it was 'ok with me' if she comes over for a couple hours.
Now she's here getting more of her clothes and other stuff.
She left her 'Divorce' book, but she did take her 'toybox'.
