Is he starting to come home?

[No Longer BH]

I have been posting under infidelity for the last three months. My H moved out in March to find himself while in the depths of a deep depression. In May he admitted to an A. Said it was a friends with benefits sitch, but was not willing to give up his friendship with her. Then started to say he no longer want any kind of R with me and thought we should file for a LS. SInce he was no longer willing to have NC with her, I filed for D in July. He reacted by pulling our money and cutting me off financially. After many threats and lots of anger, he finaly came to an agreement concerning money for now. We had our first mediation appoint on July 24th (our 18 year wedding anniversary). After it was over, he wanted to talk to me. Said he was sorry for the A, that it should have never happened. Said that he had not had sex with her in 2 months but was still friends with her. Said he was still depressed but trying to get to a healthy place, but felt we still needed to D. I agreed with everything he said on the outside but was still hurting on the inside.

After mediation, the tone of his emails to me started to soften. First they were the woe is me kind like - if there was a brick wall hard enough to knock some since into me I would bang my head against it. After these came the "I hope you find peace" type of emails. And now they are friendly joking emails.

Two weeks ago I brought up me moving back to the house w S (when I found out about A I packed me and S up and moved 2 hours away into my brother's place). H was so excited to get S back into town and agreed immediately to move out so we could come back. Then H came up for S last IC appointment that was in the town we were at. While S was talking to IC, H was Mr. Chatty. Kept saying I looked great (lost a ton of weight and dressing cute again) would pat my thigh while joking with me and even asked if maybe we could go to lunch to talk about things S is going through. I was happy neighbor, thanked him for his comments and did not commit to anything. After they left, H called me to say thank you for such a great conversation.

Then, Sat I moved back into house. H knows I am going to be there at 4:30 and S is over at a friends house for a sleepover. H was suppose to be gone by then. Ten minutes after I get there H shows up becasue he forgot something. He joins me and my neighbor in a conversation and keeps talking about how great I look. He then wants to help me unpack and follows me around the house while I unload my suitcase. I finally tell him I have plans and he needs to go (in a friendly way). I then find a note he left saying he washed my sheets for me, bought my favorite cereal and made some jokes to me in the letter. It was totally out of his current behavior. He then called me Monday 3x's (only answered the last) to find out about S first day at school. Wants to talk to me when he never has before.

Tuesday at S new IC appointment, he is Mr Chatty again. I go out and he watches S. When I get back he stays to talk to me for about 30 min until I said I have to go to bed. Repeat again on Thursday until he brings up that we need to start to discuss some things for our upcoming D (which we both agreed to put on hold until Feb/March until our house sell due to financial reasons). We are still going to go to mediation to work out our issues, but will complete our D after house sells. It really confused me that he has been reaching out to me, joking with me and making a point to let me know he is not in a R with anyone, then wants to talk about D and gets angry about it.

Do you think he might be coming out of the fog? Is this how it typically happens - they start to test the waters before they actually start to think about coming back? I have been DBing my butt off this last month becasue I do not want my M to end. I am just affraid that he is not testing the waters, he is just relieved that there no longer anger between us so he wants to be just friends. Any advise would be so welcome.