Well I got ripped for the church comment, I just shut my mouth, my head hung low, and let her talk, at that point nothing I could say would help but only make things worse so I apologized and she forgave me still upset but said I crossed the line with that one. I should have spent more time thinking about that church comment from her perspective before mention it. I did learn a lot from it though. On the up side she did say that she has a good heart and that GOD WAS THE ONLY WAY FOR HER. She also mentioned that she was already considering church and that she was trying to figure if morning or evenings were better. All in all from what I saw and heard tonight, I can really tell that my prayers and the other people praying for us are having an impact on her in a good way, I feel confident in things to come, but I can till it is going to be a long time coming.
I was working on trying to plan for school in the spring and my W thinks I should. I get the feeling that she would have more appreciation and respect for me if she sees me doing something productive like that in my life. I wonder if it would look attractive to her. I'm thinking about selling my jetski to use the money for school. I may even move to an apt. for cheaper rent, that is just a thought.
Anyway we talked for just a little bit, but the whole time I just kept think how beautiful she looked. So I sent her an email stating: Thank you for coming by it was nice to see you. I didn't say a whole lot while we talked but I just kept thinking how beautiful you looked. I am very very proud of you. Stephen.
Sooners, At least you learned to not bring up going to Church to her, and that you saw her strong stand in her beliefs. It's wonderful that you are able to see God working on your W.
As for going to school because you think it'd make you more attractive in her eyes, do it because it is what you want to do to improve yourself, not just to impress her. It will be obvious to her if you did it to impress her.