I guess it must be the 'start over' thing. My H is buying a ton too. He seems to think we can afford it. He says we make a lot of money. We do make a lot, but we spend it all and have no savings (except what goes directly into retirement) whatsoever.
He always said we are lucky in a way to have his inheretance so that the kids college is mostly covered. Now I believe he is spending all of that.
I am working on listing all our bills. He implied he didn't want to worry about splitting up financials and said he doesn't want to fight about money.
We don't fight about anything so I'm not about to start fighting about money, I don't really care about money, but I do care about paying our bills.
Reading about the struggles of reconciling makes me wonder if that is what I really want. But it must make it worth it when you get some positives from your spouse, even minor ones, as long as you can see some longer term progress. Right now all my positives come from myself and my kids.
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