Help, it seems my 35 year old wife is in MLC #12

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Time goes on but nothing really changes .... or does it? I have no idea.

W's behaviour is erratic at best. We go to swimming lessons weekly with the kids. The first couple of times she was coldish and the last couple of times she has been very chatty and was debatabely flirting with me at last weeks class. In the last week her emails have also become much more friendly. Oddly, we were having a geed conversation yesterday on email when suddenly she stopped replying and I didn't hear from her the rest of the day. I had a distinct feeling that she got spooked and stopped talking.

I have long thought that W addresses her pain in this in an "it will all be better when..." type way.

"It will all be better when I move out and get my own place."

"It will all be better when I get my drivers license back."

"It will all be better when I BUY a house and get out of the rat hole I rented"

Inerestingly, I think she is running of these things to look forward too. She has her DL back now. but is very unlikely to be able to afford a car. She has moved in to the house that she bought with OW but it hasn't even been a month and I think she is out of money. She hasn't said anything but before OW moved in with her, she was stretched to the limit and looking for me to split every $10 with her that she spend on the kids. That stopped when OW moved in and (I'm assuming) paid for half of the rent for the dump. In fact she seemed to be spending constantly. Now she has moved to a house and that is much more expensive and suddenly, she is looking for money again.

So I wonder what the next "It will all be better when" will be? I can't see what else she could look forward to. I wonder how she will deflect this off herself next?