I'm a new poster & my H said the same thing - "this isn't about her!" Well, stop going to her & make it about us! Weird thing is, 95% of what he's told me about the OW is negative, including whether he thinks they have a future together. It is most definitely HIS problem.
Me 56 H 47 Married 21 years No children Bomb & moved out 4/07 "My feelings have changed" & "I want to live by myself". Ow Bomb 8/07 H filed 6/08 D final 2/05/10
