I learned from my H that intimacy isn't always about sex. I would avoid cuddles and holding hands and playful behaviour....because I always thought it would lead to him wanting sex....which most of the time I didn't feel like - usually because I was too tired and all cuddled out from the kids.
Now I know that when he told me that just having me hug him, or rub his back, or stroke his head was enough much of the time, I know that it was true.(Even listening properly to me rather than with only half an ear would have been a big improvement). What they think when they are in this wierd place is perhaps that they wanted sex....but actually they wanted closeness and attention. They wanted to feel special to someone.....and that someone was YOU. At the moment it is OW because he wasn't getting it from you...but OW won't be able to keep it up for long....so, as I say.....give it time. Truly, time is your friend.
((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
