Between two people, there are three versions of reality. What you experienced and remember, what she experienced and remembers, and what the video feed shows. Since, none of us is the video feed, all we can say about the nature of reality is "this is how it seemed to me","this is what I remember","this is how I felt about xyz"
Another thing while I'm streaming consciousness. Trust is built up by repeated actions over time. Frankly, we can trust someone to act like a jerk and be surprised if they don't. So, the picking a fight with you will I imagine fade over time as she sees that you've had identity level change and you aren't just putting on the changes.
I'll offer up one more thought as it's something that I think about frequently. As you change and grow in confidence and as your willingness to tolerate BS decreases, the potential for conflict arises and my impression is that it's easy for the WAS to look at the fact there is a conflict and determine that nothing has changed, when the reality is that there has been lots of change and now they are in the position of needing to grow and change in order to relate to you in a mature adult manner.
Dan, this is good stuff. A phrase comes to mind, "perception is reality". Especially when women are involved
I really hope the fight-picking will fade over time, and that we can build trust.
Me: 30 W: 28 T 8, M 6 S: 7-27-2007 W filed (again) 3-2011 Served 8-2011 Responded, now dark "I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear" MLK
