Is it just sex....or more?????

[7 Year Itch]

You know where I stand. Each sitch is different, and only YOU will truly know what you are feeling, and what you are able to cope with.

For me ,I'm not going to lie. I felt cheap, and felt like crap afterwards for the first two months. H would always have a freak out afterwards, say we couldn't do that anymore, practically have smoke coming off his heels as he left afterwards. Yeah, it sucked. But now in our 4th month since the bomb, and now having very satisifying, and very mutual sex ,I really am so glad I kept it up. For me, and our sitch, I think we would be halfway through the divorce already had I not. I think it kept a sense of intimacy in the middle of all the chaos.

We are so no where out of the woods yet, but I really do feel like it's kept the momentum going for us to have positive interaction. I think for the High Drive spouse (both our husbands) they of course question our motives, wonder if it's just temporary etc. And for me, the only way I know to "prove" that its a real change I want to make for myself AND us, is with time.

Hang in there,
Chris