I am making my own happiness, there's more and more of it everyday.
Good for you. Afterall, that's the only thing we really have control over.
No, sadly your H may never see what he's done or at the least not for quite a while. It takes time for them to come to grips with the people they've become.
The best thing that you can do for you and your children is to find happiness where you can and to get on with it, and it sounds as if that's exactly what you intend to do. Good for you!