Too late for DB, #10

[cw68]

I am making my own happiness, there's more and more of it everyday.

I don't know if STBXH is going to ever be able to look back and get it. Definitely right now he's blinded by this girl. I'm doing a background check on her and her XH to see if she and his violence is something that I really should start paying attention to. The more I find out about her, the more I wonder how the heck my STBXH is attracted to her.

She got fired from her job as our dental hygienist last year, sued them and won. Her XH is 32 years older than her, has an ex-step-son the same age as her and one five years younger than her, someone else disliked her enough to call her XH to tell him she was dating, her XH is violent, etc.

I really don't care all that much about my STBXH and her, that's his bed he's making. It does just show how much he's changed and how different he is than just a few years ago. I care, instead, about how this will affect my kids. My gut says that when our house sells the two of them are going to move in together. That affects my kids because we know the survival rate of a relationship with the OW.

AURGH. I just can't believe the choices he continues to make. Even more flabbergasting is that he doesn't understand why we "can't move forward as friends." DAM.

No more DAM for me. I am dating and he's a quality guy with whom I have a ton of fun. It's nice to hang out with someone whom I respect and respects me. That's been missing for far too long.