Heya- I guess I see H as being pretty 'smart' about things and he's pretty good at reading me. I think I view what I am doing sort of like my prairie dogs. When they are getting annoyed, first their tail fluffs up and then they give a warning chirp or two. Then they might give a quick nip with a chirp and then...well, prepare to bleed profusely. At first, we didn't know how to read them, so we got bit a few times. But after awhile, we learned what they were saying and I rarely get bit. Last time was from the 'in tact' male who doesn't like my H and as I was petting him, my H said something and the prairie dog abruptly bit me.
ANYWAY, I feel like I am fluffing my tail and chirping a bit. I am not ready to bite him because this will cause a full on scene and it might blow the whole deal up. Make sense?
In the past two weeks, I have specifically said that I am losing patience and understanding; that my next "move" is back into the house; that he's about to lose his crown; that I looked into moving out of state; that he is living on borrowed time with regard to this situation continuing...I have implied that he is on the verge of pushing me away to the point of me giving up. No, I think he is quite aware of the sitch- heck, he fancies himself "tormented" by it all; I think he is just going to keep doing this for as long as I let him.
So, how long will I let him? Good question. I don't know; we have a really good time together...Honestly, my problem is that I am scared to hear the answer if I say it's time to make up his mind. Because *obviously* he *wanted* me to live with him, I would be....OTOH, obviously, if he wanted a D, we wouldn't be seeing eachother.
He thinks HE'S tormented?! Sheesh!!!
Me-43 H-46 M 12 yrs 7/09 T 15 2 grown kids bomb 7/05/07 H moved out 8/04/07 11/22/09 told him I quit;let's get ball rolling Mid Dec- he isn't sure he wants D End 2/2010-Starting to consider piecing
