"What I think is difficult to fathom though is why you seem to think that "standing" means paralysis."
One more thing--letting a husband know what is going on with his own kids is not burdening them. The one thing I never want my husband to come back and say to me is, "why didn't you tell me?"
It was always agreed upon that I would always keep my husband informed of the goings on with the kids. He is just as responsible for them as I am.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
I do not want to see your thread turn into a religious debate or the meaning of standing as there are some major differences in the meaning of standing and how all of us treat our spouses.
I want your thread to be about you.
Hugs to you today.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Dar not sure how spiritual you are, but when I am at a crossroads in my life I pull my strength from God. Meaning I ask God what he wants for my life. This is not some short prayer and then I am done. This is I really get focused on prayer on a daily effort and then wait for God to answer.
The answer then comes in many forms whether someone stops by my house, a call from a friend, a stranger, a post, an e-mail. I can then trust what direction God wants me to take or simply having a peace about my life.
Pray and wait for an answer from God!
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"
I want to add that also when relying on God, a peace does take over and calm us--it just happens and it is hard to describe.
And surrounding myself with godly people helps as well.
On the other hand, when taking matters into my own hands the way I used to (two years ago and counting), I would feel many different things, anger, bitterness, revenge and so on.
I am not angry or bitter or feel a need for revenge. Yes, right now I have these papers in front of me but I cannot look back. I have to move forward and so does H. In order to move forward, we cannot look back and be consumed with all of the emotions.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
"What I think is difficult to fathom though is why you seem to think that "standing" means paralysis."
I am afraid you are mistaken I never said this at all. It was part of a post to you from Summer, which she quoted Charlyne ? one of your favourites I believe as you often post her messages across the board. It really was an excellent post and as it was mainly taken from quotes and letters writen by people from the rejoice site I thought it might help Dar with her stand. I am so sorry if you thought it was from me. Take care.
You are right Steelers about relying on God. Last summer I was unemployed and our mortgage was 2 weeks late. I was so devistated my brother bought me a plane ticket to visit him. I just kept praying and asking God where and how I could get the money to pay our mortgage and I needed a job to survive.
When I got back from my trip there was a check in my mailbox for $1339. I was so shocked and dropped to my knees and praised God. My brother had also given me $300 for some groceries and stuff.
Fast forward to today. I was able to pay our mortgage and I got a job 2 months later and we still have our house.
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"
You are proof that God does provide, that prayers do work, and what that faith does.
God has reasons for everything. Sometimes it might seem like LBS' are not doing anything or not being able to get a job but God has His hand in that, too.
Maybe it is to teach several lessons--learn to live within your means, learn to live with what little you have, teach husband that he was made by God to be the head of the household and it is his duty to be the main provider for them.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
You are right Steelers. My h's last job was a commission only job and I kept praying for my h to get the sales and God answered me and said he would not be blessed. I kept praying for h anyway. Well, he lost that job and made NO money.
God was showing me that my h was learning a lesson of making things right and that money won't solve your problems.
I do believe God is blessing him now with this job.
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"
How do you see that your prayers are being answered. Maybe my daily prayers aren't heard or I can't see they're being answered. How do you rebuilt faith that has slacked for so long?
