This guy sounds like a real winner. He's 33, no career (waits tables and works as a camp counselor in the summer), he is still really into video games, he can't get it up, he has such a low self esteem that he thinks people give him a look like "What is she doing with him?" ... lol He sounds like a winner to me.
His good qualities... He says nice things to her. That's all that I have heard. She told me one time that he is the first person that ever made her feel like she came first. Well, lets see, he has all those great qualities listed above, no wonder he's telling you all kinds of nice stuff and making you feel so important. He's a loser!
This reminds me a little of me when I met my W. I didn't have the ED problem and I was in college and on my way into the USAF, but, I was otherwise similar. The thing is, I treated my W better than anyone ever had treated her including her previous BFs. Of course, I made her feel like she came first, I put her first. I put her ahead of work and school and everything and she loved it for a while. Later I believe it got very unattractive and she started losing respect for me.
Floyd, I'm not sure that you can compete with what he is giving. But, you really don't want to compete with that anyway. It sounds like the more that you GAL, the greater will be the contrast between you and OM and I suspect that she will lose respect for him and start to despise him. Think about it, do you care that a bum on the street respects you? Probably not because you don't respect them. Remember all that we are learning here, clingy needy behavior is unattractive.
So, your mission should you choose to accept it is to back off, stop pursuing and GAL
